1960s Husband & Wife Fighting. Should They Divorce? See What Happened

This film was made in 1963 by the United States Air Force to help military families get through the stresses so many endured. In 1960 the divorce rate was approximately 2.2 per 1,000 population and it rose to approximately 3.5 per 1,000 population by 1970. Prior to the 1960s divorce was less common and was often stigmatized. By the late 1960s and early 1970s, however, societal attitudes were shifting as part of the larger cultural revolution and divorce rates began to rise. Before the mid 1960s most states had “fault“ divorce laws. This meant that to be granted a divorce, one spouse had to prove the other spouse was at fault for the breakdown of the marriage. If you couldn’t prove fault you might not be granted a divorce. Many couples stayed in unhappy or unhealthy marriages due to the difficulty of obtaining a divorce and the likely potential for being ostracized. The rise of no-fault divorce laws in the 1970s beginning in California made it easier for couples to separate leading to a rise in the divorce rate. In 1963 when this film was produced the role and expectations of a husband were influenced by traditional gender roles and societal norms. Here are some common expectations to be a good husband. A husband was expected to provide emotional stability and support to his wife. This included being a good listener, offering comfort, and being empathetic towards her feelings and concerns. Beyond financial support a husband was seen as the protector and provider for his family. This involved ensuring the physical safety and well-being of his wife and children, making important decisions and being the primary breadwinner. A good husband was expected to treat his wife with respect, dignity, and honor. This involved valuing her opinions, considering her needs and desires, and treating her as an equal partner in the marriage. Monogamy and fidelity were highly valued in marriages during that time. A good husband was expected to be loyal to his wife and maintain a committed relationship. Participating actively in family life and taking an interest in household affairs and parenting were considered important responsibilities. This could include helping with household chores, spending quality time with the children, and actively engaging in family activities. Gender roles were more traditional in 1963 and a good husband was still expected to involve his wife in important decision-making processes. Seeking her input and considering her perspective on matters that affected the family was seen as a sign of respect and partnership. Moral behavior in 1963 meant: Being truthful, trustworthy and keeping one’s word were highly valued. Respecting and obeying authority figures such as parents, teachers, and government officials was considered morally important. Demonstrating diligence and a strong work ethic was admired as it was seen as a sign of responsibility and commitment. Valuing and prioritizing the family unit including being a good spouse and parent was highly regarded. Engaging in civic duties, respecting the law and contributing positively to society were seen as morally upright actions. Taking responsibility for one’s actions, admitting mistakes and making amends were considered honorable traits. Immoral behavior in 1963 meant: Lying, cheating and engaging in fraudulent activities were seen as morally wrong. Open defiance or disrespect towards authority figures was frowned upon. Engaging in sexual activities outside of marriage or having multiple partners was considered immoral. Shunning personal responsibilities such as neglecting family obligations or avoiding work was seen as morally questionable. Holding prejudiced views or discriminating against individuals based on their race, ethnicity, religion or other characteristics was widely condemned.