How Sick Parents Destroy You (or: Why I am Childless)

WATCH “Dead Mothers” and Their Offspring: Narcissistic, Borderline, Psychotic WATCH How to Raise a Narcissistic Child, Winner in a Sick World Breach of boundaries, annexation and appropriation, objectification Appeasement or rebellion strategies (wrath of the gods vs. apotheosis: codependent people-pleasing vs. antisocial narcissism) Splitting (child all bad, mommy all good), never integration Projection is always projective identification (because parents perceived as infallible: child identify with parts that a parent placed on them, well into adulthood) Social isolation Self-referential isolation (negative bad object or inflated, impossible ideal ego that transforms into bad object)= impaired reality testing Obstructed separation-individuation via ambient emotional blackmail or emotional incest Sibling hierarchies and competition Cult vs. Others (they are wrong, they are enemies, they will never understand, they are evil, we must protect our secrets) Instrumentalizing leads to adulation but unrealistic expectations and coercive snapshotting Parentifying: I am never good enough, I am responsible for other people’s welfare Immaturity, regressive infantilism, imaginary friends, paracosm, fantasy as defense and shared Ego failure (no integrated or constellated self, just fragments) Find and Buy MOST of my BOOKS and eBOOKS in my Amazon Store: